RELATIONSHIP TESTIMONIALS
Gary saved our marriage, our relationship, our personal demons and our family.
"We got in touch with Gary when our relationship was hanging by a thread. I did some research into local counsellors and therapists and Gary stood out by a mile. Just from his website, I knew he was exactly what we needed. We didn't want our relationship to end but things had happened that we didn't think a relationship could survive, despite loving each other and having children together. We went to Gary with a common goal and that was to understand why our relationship had taken a turn for the worse and what could we do to come out of the other side as a stronger and happier couple. Gary was unbiased and non-judgemental; he was easy to talk to, even when things were hard to say. To say that seeing Gary has been life-changing for both of us, personally and as a couple, would be an understatement. Gary helped us to understand our individual attachment personalities and what that means for us in a relationship - taking us back to our starts in life and our relationships with our primary carers. This was so insightful and a breakthrough for us in understanding why we respond to certain situations the way that we do. We had a couple of sessions together, a few sessions apart and then a couple more sessions together. That's it. We covered relationship counselling, depression, anger management and more importantly for us, how to change the way we think and act to ensure that we don’t spiral downwards again. We went through the RIPP programme (Resistance, Injustice, Powerless, Pain). It was so meaningful and so effective. I've seen therapists before, but all they really did was put a short-term plaster over the pain or anxiety. Through Gary's methods, we worked on finding the root cause to change the behaviour and conditioning for good. I can honestly say my husband and I have never been happier, and we have found a way to survive what some would consider the ultimate test in a relationship. We truly have a stronger, more empathetic and loving relationship now. My only regret is that we didn’t see Gary sooner, but sometimes it takes until breaking point before you realise you need to do something about it. Gary - you saved our marriage, our relationship, our personal demons and our family and we can't thank you enough."
— Anonymous Couple Cheltenham July 2019
We were locked into a repetitive and destructive pattern in our relationship.
"I am so pleased to recommend Gary for both personal and couples therapy. In fact, I recommend him to everyone I know! My husband and I were locked into a repetitive and destructive pattern in our relationship ... we are caring people and I have some experience with therapy as a practitioner myself! We were bewildered and desperate! We swallowed our pride and went to see Gary without much hope and as a last resort. We left the first session with hope and smiles! We felt that Gary was with us and for us. He steered us from our negative behaviours to why and how! His 'rip' explanation is illuminating and helpful ... he helps us to understand ourselves deeply and has an ability to connect with us as individuals and inspire us forwards. Progress is fast and enjoyable and my husband and I are closer, stronger and happier for meeting the challenge of personal and marital difficulties and getting to the other side. We are eternally grateful to Gary, and again offer our wholehearted recommendation."
— Anonymous Stroud 2017
Gary saved our marriage and I cannot thank him enough.
"My husband and I were experiencing difficulties in our relationship, constant bickering and arguing which would eventually build up to an explosive argument where either my husband or I would storm off out of the house. After the last major argument my husband packed his bags and left, threatening to leave for good, this was when I decided that we couldn’t carry on like this, we needed help! I knew my husband would agree to see a counsellor as we still loved each other very much and we both wanted to get to the bottom of why this was happening to us. Gary was not recommended to me, I found him on the internet and I am so thankful that I did, all the testimonials were very helpful in making our decision. On our first session with Gary my husband and I saw him together, it got a little argumentative at times but Gary managed the situation amazingly, he made us understand why we were acting the way we were and, unbeknown to us, he made us realise that our past traumatic relationships were transferring into our current relationship. We left after the first session feeling really elated, although we knew we still had issues that needed sorting, after just one session with Gary it was like a weight had been lifted off our shoulders. We saw Gary separately for a further two sessions; this was helpful because we told Gary things that we wouldn’t say in front of one another for fear of upsetting the other. Again, he made us realise that some of this transference of behaviour wasn’t just from our past relationships it went way back to our childhood, this was such an eye-opener. For our final session we saw Gary together and we were like a different couple, I can honestly say that things have changed so much for the better between us. We are now more conscious of our behaviour towards one another, the bickering has stopped and we have not had another explosive argument since. Gary has been a life saver to our relationship and I think every couple could benefit from a counselling session with Gary. He saved our marriage and I cannot thank him enough!"
— Mr & Mrs D, Worcestershire
I needed a counsellor who wouldn’t just sit and nod at me.
"I was suffering from PTSD and a difficult relationship patch, along with ill health, and needed a Counsellor who wouldn't just sit and nod at me, but would actually interact with me and help rationalise my thoughts. Gary was that man, poor thing! He was very calm, has great presence and is very thoughtful, but will challenge you when appropriate - which was exactly what I needed. He also helped my fiancé greatly with his anger issues, we would not still be together if it weren't for Gary! Re the PTSD I am now practically 'normally' as he helped me separate the trauma from reality, which has massively lowered my stress levels down to a manageable level. If you need a Counsellor, get Gary, you won't regret it!"
— Shelly Bailey. Bristol. 2015
I had only four sessions with Gary and got my life back on track.
"I went to Gary after my third long term relationship had broken down, my daughters were disappointed in me, my family had failed me and let me go years ago. I was drinking too much too often, I really felt and looked like a broken woman. I had only 4 sessions with Gary. During the very first session he identified the issues in my life and there were plenty that were being dealt with by my inner child, her need to be loved not abandoned, her need of trust, respect and loyalty were causing, me, the adult to revert to my sad childhood emotions when dealing with the majority of things! Gary taught me to be 'OK even if things aren't ok' to 'empower' myself and most importantly to 'stay in the now' and to love my inner child and let the adult 'me' reign supreme. Gary is straightforward, plain speaking but really does identify with you. He gave his time when I needed reassurance and sent me informative links which have given me great insight. I very highly recommend Gary and appreciate greatly his help so I can get my life back on track!"
— Mrs B. Cheltenham 2016
I have a lot more clarity and understanding about myself.
"I was reluctant to go & see anyone at first as I genuinely felt fine within myself, however, I swallowed my pride and went to see Gary, as I wanted to do everything I could to help my marriage of 38yrs.
I found Gary to be friendly, easy going & non-judemental. I felt relaxed talking to him. He was able to start a conversation which drew me in and encouraged me to open up about myself, there was no awkwardness, it felt as if I were having a natter with a friend.
I didn't understand the concept of opening up to my feelings & emotions, but through his explanation, I was able to delve within myself & evoke past pain, I was then able to give another meaning to it. I have a lot more clarity & understanding about myself, which has enabled my wife & I to experience a more loving, respectful relationship."
— Paul (Angies husband) October 2024
Paul and I have a closer relationship, with more insight into how we tick as individuals.
"I sought Gary out as my husband & I needed some sort of intervention within our marriage.
The first time I went by myself. I felt heard & my feelings were validated.
To realise there is a pinnacle point in your life that most things stem from, is life changing, and with that awareness, you can change your view point & I did, with Garys help & guidance.
Both Paul & myself saw Gary individually & together over several weeks, and we are both the better for it.
I have had many 'AHA!' moments along this journey through his teachings.
Paul & I have a closer relationship, with more insight to how we tick as individuals and how that impacts our marriage for the better.
I would 100% recommend Gary."
— Angie (Paul's wife) October 2024
Gary helped me get my life back on track and gave me a new perspective.
"I went to see Gary after my divorce as I felt that I had lost some of my confidence and was struggling to process certain emotions relating to some difficult family events that had also happened around that time. During my first session I immediately felt better about one particular issue that had been bothering me for some time as Gary enabled me to look at things in a completely different way and release the guilt that I had been carrying around. Subsequent sessions helped me process and mentally reframe a number of other issues and feelings in a way that was easy and comfortable. I found Gary friendly and easy to talk to but also professional and knowledgeable. The sessions I had with him helped me to get my life back on track and give me a new perspective. I now have a new career and am in a supportive, loving relationship. I would recommend Gary to anyone who needs help dealing with the various challenges and changes that life brings along."
— Woman Cambridgeshire
EVERY STORY IS DIFFERENT
Every testimonial on this page reflects one person's individual experience.
People arrive with different histories, different personalities and different goals, so no two journeys are ever exactly the same. My hope is not that you compare yourself with someone else's story, but that you recognise something of your own experience within it.
